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’sambhoga’-’vipralambha’-bhede dvividha srngara
sambhogera ananta anga, nahi anta tara
SYNONYMS
sambhoga—of meeting (enjoyment together); vipralambha—of separation; bhede—in two divisions; dvi-vidha srngara—two kinds of conjugal love; sambhogera—of the stage of sambhoga, or meeting; ananta anga—unlimited parts; nahi—not; anta—an end; tara—of that "In conjugal love (srngara) there are two departments-meeting and separation.
On the platform of meeting, there are unlimited varieties that are beyond description.
PURPORT
Vipralambha is described in the Ujjvala-nilamani:
yunor ayuktayor bhavo
yuktayor vatha yo mithah
abhistalinganadinam
anavaptau prakrsyate
sa vipralambho vijneyah
sambhogonnatikarakah
na vina vipralambhena
sambhogah pustim asnute When the lover and the beloved meet, they are called yukta (connected).
Previous to their meeting, they are called ayukta (not connected).
Whether connected or not connected, the ecstatic emotion arising due to not being able to embrace and kiss each other as desired is called vipralambha.
This vipralambha helps nourish emotions at the time of meeting.
Similarly, sambhoga is thus described:
darsanalinganadinam
anukulyan nisevaya
yunor ullasam arohan
bhavah sambhoga iryate “Meeting each other and embracing each other are aimed at bringing about the happiness of both the lover and the beloved.
When this stage becomes increasingly jubilant, the resultant ecstatic emotion is called sambhoga.” When awakened, sambhoga is divided into four categories: (1) purva-raga-anantara-after purva-raga (attachment prior to meeting), sambhoga is called brief (sanksipta); (2) mana-anantara-after mana (anger based on love), sambhoga is called encroached (sankirna); (3) kincid-dura-pravasa-anantara-after being a little distance away for some time, sambhoga is called accomplished (sampanna); (4) sudura-pravasa-anantara-after being far away, sambhoga is called perfection (samrddhiman).
The meetings of the lovers that take place in dreams also have these four divisions.